Fair warning… this isn’t a touchy-feely parenting post. This is a frustrated and disappointed parenting post. And please tell me I’m not the only parent to have those feelings about her children.
At what age should I start expecting some dedication from my children? Because so far… I’m not seeing it. Oh sure, they’ll join teams and participate in sports and play instruments. But are they dedicated to any of those things? Pushing themselves in practice? Putting in extra time of their own volition? Eager to learn and grow in their interests?
No, no and no.
I’ll admit, I may be more dedicated than some. When a task is set before me I will not only accomplish that task, I will work my hardest to do that task well. No, not just well, to do that task to the very best of my ability. I do nothing half-assed.
And yet my children? I think they do everything half-assed. I notice a typo on a paper – does my child correct it? No, they turn it in knowing there’s a mistake. I offer to take a child to workout outside of practice – do they ever want to go? No. Whether it’s related to school or sports, those kids aren’t doing anything unless they are told to do it.
I’m tempted to just stop telling them. You want to go to practice? Tell me when it’s time to leave. After all, I’m not the one who will be embarrassed when a bad performance happens. You want to be on honor roll? Then why am I reminding you to do your homework (and turn it in on time)? I’m done getting report cards.
Am I asking too much? Is it just not in the nature of a child to be dedicated? I hate (and yes that’s a strong word) that I have to tell my child why practice is important. She or he should know why it’s important and want to go to be better, stronger, faster, sharper. But they want the rewards with none of the work and none of the effort.
I’m officially tossing my hands up in defeat. I’m done being the activity monitor. I give my children wonderful opportunities and I am so very sick of watching them squander them.